People with an Enneagram type six personality tend to be engaging, hard-working, and responsible in their behavior. They want to feel safe and tend to be concerned with outside threats. They are very loyal and want to build close relationships with others.
Enneagram 6 Personality Traits
Sixes’ deepest fear is that of losing their personal support and stability. They usually crave predictable, safe environments. Sixes tend to have an “expect the worst, hope for the best,” mentality. They may express this fear by overthinking decision-making.
Their basic desire is to feel secure, which they are likely to show through their own loyalty to others. They work hard to build strong, stable relationships. Sixes want to feel that they can truly trust others to support them.
Though sixes themselves are loyal, they have difficulty trusting others and defend themselves by projecting their own feelings, positive or negative.
In summary, Enneagram 6 personalities tend to...
- Seek security and stability from others
- Fear losing their support systems
- Work hard and act responsibly
- Project their feelings in hard times
- Value loyalty and trust in relationships
Enneagram 6 Strengths
Every personality archetype has strengths and blind spots, and these are often amplified in professional settings where we often encounter a diverse group of people with vastly different backgrounds and value systems.
Strengths that are typically associated with the Enneagram 6 personality include...
- Making responsible and practical choices
- Honoring commitments to people and plans
- Protecting and caring for others
- Recognizing and thinking about other perspectives
- Ability to consider both logic and emotion
Enneagram 6 Weaknessess
Weaknessess that are typically associated with the Enneagram 6 personality include...
- Difficulty controlling anxious thoughts
- Tendency to expect the worst outcome or be pessimistic
- Fearing important or major life decisions
- High levels of self-doubt and insecurity
Enneagram 6 Growth
Growth opportunities that are typically associated with the Enneagram 6 personality include...
- Understanding the limits of their control
- Avoiding magnifying or dramatizing problems
- Developing a confidence in themselves and their abilities
- Focusing on what has gone well, rather than anticipating failure
How Enneagram 6 personalities like to work
Communicating with an Enneagram 6
Help them to feel safe and comfortable sharing by listening and offering support.
Meeting with an Enneagram 6
Abide by a scheduled meeting time and be supportive and encouraging.
Emailing an Enneagram 6
Explain the purpose directly and practically, avoiding small-talk.
Giving feedback to an Enneagram 6
Keep feedback on the gentler side; express encouragements and constructive criticism.
Resolving conflict with an Enneagram 6
Calmly and logically address the situation and your own point-of-view; help sixes to feel safe and secure when expressing themselves.
Enneagram 6 Motivations
When people experience pain, stress, or dissatisfaction, it can usually be attributed to energy-draining activities. Therefore, it’s important to know what kinds of activities energize each personality type and which activities drain them.
Enneagram 6s tend to be motivated and energized by...
- Consistent and trustworthy relationships
- Offering help and assistance to others
- Advocating for personal beliefs and values
- Time spent with people they love
Enneagram 6 Stress
Enneagram 6s tend to be stressed and drained by...
- Unreliable people and relationships
- Negativity in their work or personal environment
- Feeling as though they aren’t needed
- Failing or making the wrong decision
Enneagram 6 Careers
Type Sixes tend to thrive in environments that value their abilities and offer them security. They enjoy stable work that allows them to build solid relationships and make safe, well-thought-out decisions.
Enneagram 6s feel energized at work when...
- They are safe and supported
- Their boss trusts and appreciates their input
- Their peers take the time to connect with them personally
- Their direct reports appreciate their suggestions
Enneagram 6s feel drained at work when...
- They feel like the work environment is inconsistent or unstable
- Their boss criticizes their suggestions
- Their peers are unpredictable or emotionally overwhelming
- Their direct reports are unreliable or lazy
Enneagram 6 Jobs
Sixes are pragmatic and trustworthy. They are hardworking, dedicating themselves to a cause until the very end.
Common jobs for people with Enneagram 6 personality types
- Administrative Assistant
- Police Officer
Enneagram 6 Relationships (Professional)
When type Sixes work alongside people who are more optimistic and idealistic, they can be supportive, practical colleagues. If they work with another Six, they will likely need to consciously consider the positive and avoid becoming too worried about the risks when making decisions.
Enneagram 6s tend to work well with others who...
- Are stable and predictable
- Share appreciation for their hard work
- Avoid being overly emotional when making decisions
Enneagram 6s may hit obstacles in professional relationships when they...
- Focus too intensely on the negative aspects of a situation
- React strongly when someone makes the wrong decision
- Feel unimportant or unnecessary to coworkers
Enneagram 6 Relationships (Romantic)
Type Sixes can be practical, loyal partners, especially when with someone who more free-spirited and idealistic. When in a relationship with another Six, they avoid overwhelming or stressing one other by focusing on the positive aspects of an issue.
In a romantic relationship, Enneagram 6s bring strengths like...
- Making balanced, thoughtful decisions
- Dedication to working through difficult issues
- Unwavering loyalty to their partner
In romantic relationships, Enneagram 6s may have trouble...
- Remaining calm in tense discussions
- Facing difficult, important decisions
- Letting go of unhealthy relationships
Famous Examples of Enneagram 6s
Ben Affleck, Johnny Carson, Katie Couric, Ellen Degeneres, Diana, Princess of Wales, Nora Ephron, Tom Hanks, David Letterman, David Sedaris, J.R.R Tolkien, Bilbo Baggins (The Lord of the Rings).
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