ESTJ Personality Type

The Commander in Myers Briggs

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What is the ESTJ personality type (The Commander)?
People with an ESTJ personality type tend to be organized, loyal, and hard-working in their behavior. They are good, law-abiding citizens with a desire to lead. They are very principled and thrive when they are helping and encouraging others to follow a set of beliefs and values.

ESTJ Personality Traits

ESTJ types are very high energy. They’d rather spend their time with other people than alone.

They tend to pay more attention to the details of a situation. They make decisions based on what they see right now.

Commanders base their decisions on what makes sense, rather than what feels right. They listen to their head, not their heart.

They are responsible and like to plan ahead. They hold themselves accountable by making lists and following set processes and rules.


In summary, ESTJ personality types tend to...

  • Follow rules and listen to authority figures
  • Absorb the specifics of a situation
  • Enjoy time spent around other people
  • Create and abide by schedules
  • Listen to their logic when making decisions

ESTJ Strengths

Every personality archetype has strengths and blind spots, and these are often amplified in professional settings where we often encounter a diverse group of people with vastly different backgrounds and value systems.

Strengths that are typically associated with the ESTJ personality type include...

  • Making well-thought-out, practical decisions
  • Ability to effectively lead large groups of people
  • Listening to and respecting authority figures
  • Strong beliefs and values that act as motivators
  • Natural confidence in their abilities

ESTJ Weaknesses

Weaknesses that are typically associated with the ESTJ personality type include...

  • Difficulty adapting to unexpected circumstances
  • Lack of tolerance when disagreeing with another’s actions
  • Tendency to take control, even when it's not their place
  • Struggling to express feelings or emotions
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How ESTJ personality types like to work

Communicating with an ESTJ personality type

Be respectful and forward; communicate clearly and directly.

Meeting with an ESTJ personality type

Send an agenda beforehand so ESTJs feel organized and know what to expect; allow room for engagement.

Emailing an ESTJ personality type

Don’t worry about including casual conversation; instead, get straight to the issue at hand.

Giving feedback to an ESTJ personality type

Include practical advice and direction when giving feedback.

Resolving conflict with an ESTJ personality type

Avoid overly emotional expressions and logically explain your point of view.

ESTJ Motivations

When people experience pain, stress, or dissatisfaction, it can usually be attributed to energy-draining activities. Therefore, it’s important to know what kinds of activities energize each personality type and which activities drain them.

ESTJ personality types tend to be motivated and energized by...

  • Ethical, inspiring action from others
  • Organization and structure in their personal life
  • Time spent with the people they love
  • Strong and admirable leadership
  • Establishing a routine or tradition

ESTJ Stress

ESTJ personality types tend to be stressed and drained by...

  • Disorganization and chaos around them
  • Inconsistent relationships with others
  • Emotional or vulnerable situations
  • Disappointments from other people
  • Unfamiliar experiences and unexpected change

ESTJ Careers

ESTJs tend to thrive in organized environments that value hard work and effectiveness. They enjoy leading others to success and establishing a smoothly-running workflow.

ESTJ personality types feel energized at work when...

  • They are recognized for their contributions.
  • Their boss gives them opportunities to lead.
  • Their peers are motivated by a strong sense of right and wrong.
  • Their direct reports easily follow instruction.

ESTJ personality types feel drained at work when...

  • They work in a supporting role.
  • Their boss is corrupt or irresponsible.
  • Their peers don’t take their jobs seriously.
  • Their direct reports ask too many personal questions.
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ESTJs are hard-working and motivated. They appreciate order and want to help the world make sense. They thrive in environments that allow them to lead and encourage them to set an example. 

Common jobs for people with ESTJ personality types

  • Police Officer
  • School Administrator
  • Military Officer
  • Lawyer
  • Auditor
  • Banker
  • Financial Officer
  • Judge

ESTJ Relationships (Professional)

ESTJs offer practical ideas that can help a less-focused team work more productively and efficiently.

ESTJ personality types tend to work well with others who...

  • Make reasonable, well thought-out choices
  • Accept smaller supporting roles
  • Directly address any problems

ESTJ personality types may hit obstacles in professional relationships when they...

  • Need to empathetically consider multiple perspectives
  • Assume a leadership role when it’s not their place
  • Neglect to share feedback with others in a sensitive way

ESTJ Relationships (Romantic)

ESTJs can be loyal, thoughtful partners who focus on addressing conflict openly and building a strong, lasting relationship.

In a romantic relationship, Commander personality types bring strengths like...

  • Quickly addressing issues as they arise
  • Standing up for and protecting their partner
  • Addressing emotionally difficult situations with logic

In romantic relationships, Commander personality types may have trouble...

  • Openly sharing their feelings
  • Assuming the supporting role in a situation
  • Tolerating actions that they disagree with

Myers-Briggs is a personality framework that can help you understand other people and why they behave in certain ways.
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Related Personality Types

Below are the DISC and Enneagram types that are similar to Myers-Briggs Type ESTJ. 

DISC Type CD, Dc, D, or Di

Enneagram Type 6 or 8

You can find your DISC, Enneagram, and Myers-Briggs types by taking Crystal's free personality test.

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