Type 2 and Type 9 Relationship

Learn about Enneagram types and relationships


What is Enneagram Type 2
(The Caregiver)?
People with an Enneagram type Two personality tend to be generous, altruistic, and empathetic in their behavior. They are hardworking and motivated people with a drive to connect with the world. They love attending to other people and feeling helpful.


What is Enneagram Type 9
(The Peacekeeper)?
People with an Enneagram type Nine personality tend to be accepting, optimistic, and adaptive in their behavior. They like peace and tend to avoid conflict. They tend to enjoy time alone or with smaller groups of people.


How can Ones and Nines communicate effectively with each other?

Twos and Nines are both innately warm, optimistic, and welcoming. However, Twos tend to be more energetic and involved, desiring acceptance from other people. Nines tend to be more relaxed and patient, driven by the need for internal and external peace.

Twos should be open and encouraging when addressing Nines.

Nines should be attentive and engaging with Twos.

Resolving Conflict

How can Ones and Nines resolve conflict?

Twos and Nines should remain empathetic to one another when addressing personal issues. Twos should help Nines feel comfortable expressing themselves by listening closely and engaging gently. Nines should avoid keeping their thoughts to themselves; they should feel comfortable directly addressing conflict by recognizing that discussion leads to resolution and peace.

Building Trust

How can Ones and Nines build trust?

Twos tend to trust Nines who can make decisions and share more openly. Nines should appreciate and encourage Twos.

Nines usually trust Twos who give them space to relax and allow them to move at their own pace. Twos should avoid being harsh or demanding around Nines.

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Working Together

How can Ones and Nines work together?

Twos are usually outgoing, curious, and motivated, while Nines tend to be more passive, stable, and calm. Twos tend to bring personal connection and helpfulness to a workplace. Nines offer mediation skills and patience. Twos can help Nines take direct action, while Nines can help Twos feel more at ease.

Dealing with Change

How can Ones and Nines deal with change?

Many Twos tend to prefer consistency, particularly in their personal relationships but are likely to adapt to a new situation after a short amount of time. Nines usually dislike change that disrupts their daily patterns but tend to adjust easily to situations that help others or diminish conflict.

Managing Stress

Ones and Nines need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.

Ones are easily stressed by...

  • Disregarding their own personal needs
  • Facing criticism or neglect from others
  • Feeling overwhelmed by everyone else’s needs
  • Rejection from job opportunities

Nines are easily stressed by...

  • Disappointing those they love
  • Needing to make difficult decisions
  • Being interrupted or ignored
  • Pent-up and unexpressed emotion

Twos should avoid talking over Nines, while Nines should help Twos address their own needs.

Encouraging and Motivating

Ones and Nines can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.

Ones are motivated by...

  • Remembering to attend to their own needs
  • Being helpful and accomplishing goals
  • Meeting and befriending new people
  • Serving others who are in need

Nines are motivated by...

  • Stability and consistency in their personal life
  • Helping to bring two groups together
  • Resolving others’ personal tensions
  • Feeling safe, accepted, and heard

Twos can motivate Nines by helping them feel comfortable expressing themselves.

Nines can encourage Twos by sharing appreciation for their help and encouragement.

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