Type 1 and Type 3 Relationship

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What is Enneagram Type 1
(The Idealist)?
People with an Enneagram type One personality tend to be rational, principled, and judicial in their behavior. They usually have a desire for justice and equality. They are motivated by a strong sense of right and wrong.

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What is Enneagram Type 3
(The Performer)?
People with an Enneagram type Three personality tend to be ambitious, adaptable, and enthusiastic in their behavior. They are driven and love to set and accomplish goals. They tend to adjust their roles, actions, and expressions to every setting or people-group in order to best fit each environment.

Communication

Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Communication

How can Ones and Threes communicate effectively with each other?

Ones and Threes are both driven, logical, and productive. Ones tend to be idealistic and focused on justice, while Threes are usually practically-minded, seeking success and value.

Ones should direct and clear when addressing Threes.

Threes should avoid being overly critical of Ones by accompanying feedback with encouragement.


Resolving Conflict

Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Conflict

How can Ones and Threes resolve conflict?

Ones and Threes should work through issues logically and systematically. Ones should be straightforward with Threes while offering a potential solution to the problem. Threes should share their own perspective and help find a suitable compromise.


Building Trust

Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Trust

How can Ones and Threes build trust?

Ones are likely to trust Threes, especially those who use their hard-working attitude and success to advocate for those less fortunate. Threes should work with Ones to help achieve shared goals.

Threes tend to trust Ones who are respectful, confident, and take the time to affirm Threes’ personal successes. Ones should also keep an open mind around Threes.

Working Together

Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Working Together

How can Ones and Threes work together?

Enneagram Ones tend to be attentive and protective, while Threes are generally pragmatic and charismatic. Ones can help Threes find new solutions to problems, while Threes can help Ones focus on the big picture.


Dealing with Change

Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Change

How can Ones and Threes deal with change?

Ones may have a difficult time adjusting to unexpected change They are likely to be upset if the change is not beneficial and will likely advocate for a different solution. Threes may see change as an exciting obstacle to overcome on their way to success. Threes tend to be enthusiastic and driven enough to welcome new situations.


Managing Stress

Ones and Threes need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.

Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Stress

Ones are easily stressed by...

  • Being perceived as rigid or inflexible
  • Receiving criticism from those they admire
  • Feeling as though they can’t make a difference
  • Overwhelming reminders of corruption in the world
Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Stress

Threes are easily stressed by...

  • Feeling as though they need to constantly entertain
  • Repetitive failure or difficulty solving a problem
  • Being perceived negatively
  • Working to reconcile their own emotions

Ones and Threes should avoid being overly critical of one another.


Encouraging and Motivating

Ones and Threes can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.

Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Encouragement

Ones are motivated by...

  • Fighting for issues of social justice
  • Volunteering and helping those less fortunate
  • Finding the right solutions to problems
  • Pursuing their own personal growth
Enneagram Type 1 & Type 3 Encouragement

Threes are motivated by...

  • Accomplishing what they set out to do
  • Feeling loved and accepted by others
  • Having new goals to achieve
  • Public-speaking or meeting new people

Ones can help motivate Threes by recognizing and affirming their successes, while Threes can encourage Ones by using their positions of power to create positive change.


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