People with an Enneagram type Two personality tend to be generous, altruistic, and empathetic in their behavior. They are hardworking and motivated people with a drive to connect with the world. They love attending to other people and feeling helpful.
What is Enneagram Type 3
(The Performer)?
People with an Enneagram type Three personality tend to be ambitious, adaptable, and enthusiastic in their behavior. They are driven and love to set and accomplish goals. They tend to adjust their roles, actions, and expressions to every setting or people-group in order to best fit each environment.
Communication
How can Twos and Threes communicate effectively with each other?
Twos and Threes are both sociable, friendly, and optimistic. Twos, however, are also sensitive and hospitable, motivated by a desire to be loved, while Threes are success-oriented and adaptable, driven by the need for value. Twos should be direct and clear when addressing Threes, while Threes should create casual conversation with Twos.
Resolving Conflict
How can Twos and Threes resolve conflict?
Twos and Threes should discuss personal issues honestly. Twos should share their own perspective openly, avoiding overly emotional language. Threes should avoid being critical or harsh when offering their own point of view. Twos and Threes should work together to calmly find a compromise that suits both of them.
Building Trust
How can Twos and Threes build trust?
Twos tend to trust Threes who are considerate and appreciative. Threes should communicate their gratitude frequently with Twos. Threes usually trust Twos who are attentive, confident, and openly communicative. Twos can recognize and affirm Threes’ successes to help Threes feel more comfortable.
Twos are generally thoughtful, people-oriented, and caring, while Threes are resourceful, energetic, and determined. Twos bring a personal connection to a work environment, while Threes offer creative ideas. Twos can help Threes feel safe and supported, while Threes can encourage Twos to set ambitious goals.
Dealing with Change
How can Twos and Threes deal with change?
Twos tend to prefer stability over new situations, meaning they may not appreciate unexpected change. Threes, however, are generally adaptable and may enjoy the challenge presented by change. Threes can help Twos see the bright side of the situation.
Managing Stress
Twos and Threes need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.
Twos are easily stressed by...
Disregarding their own personal needs
Facing criticism or neglect from others
Feeling overwhelmed by everyone else’s needs
Rejection from job opportunities
Threes are easily stressed by...
Stress from feeling as though they need to constantly entertain
Repetitive failure or difficulty solving a problem
Being perceived negatively
Working to reconcile their own emotions
Twos should avoid overly emotional reactions around Threes, while Threes should avoid being critical of Twos.
Encouraging and Motivating
Twos and Threes can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.
Twos are motivated by...
Remembering to attend to their own needs
Being helpful and accomplishing goals
Meeting and befriending new people
Serving others who are in need
Threes are motivated by...
Accomplishing what they set out to do
Feeling loved and accepted by others
Having new goals to achieve
Public-speaking or meeting new people
Twos can motivate Threes by encouraging them to consistently set enthusiastic goals.
Threes can inspire Twos by sharing appreciation for their help and support.
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