INTP Relationships

INTPs are able to creatively solve dynamic, complicated problems through deep-thought and analysis. Although they tend to enjoy following a flexible work schedule, they often work independently and efficiently in order to help achieve the teams’ set goals.

INTPs need plenty of personal autonomy at work. They thrive on their own and appreciate working with others who respect their space. They may find themselves uncomfortable or overly quiet when required to work closely with other people, especially if they don’t really know their coworkers. 

They appreciate giving and receiving feedback, often in a very direct way, which may upset those who aren’t used to receiving constructive criticism. INTPs enjoy working with people who understand the value of feedback and see it as beneficial to their personal growth.

When their coworkers are independent, comfortable with blunt or direct feedback, and have thick skin, INTPs are likely to feel most comfortable and energized.

As naturally flexible, opportunistic people, INTPs may have a difficult time following strict regulations or routines. They’re more likely to pursue their own way of doing things. INTPs may also make decisions without thinking about the emotional impact those choices may have on others, which can cause tension with coworkers. However, with honest feedback and direct communication about any problems, INTPs can build a strong awareness of how their choices affect the whole team and learn to adjust their behavior.

INTPs can be motivated partners who are able to objectively work through difficult personal problems. They need a lot of personal space and independence in a relationship. They tend to enjoy being with a partner who isn’t easily offended in discussion and is able to be open minded and adaptable.

INTPs are naturally direct and honest about their own perspective, so their partner will likely always have a good understanding of their thoughts and opinions. They are also skilled at maintaining an objective mindset when addressing personal problems in the relationship, which can help prevent unnecessary escalation. They are likely to dig until they find the root cause of an issue, which can help resolve the problem completely and prevent it from happening again in the future.

Because they tend to be fairly reserved and logical, INTPs may have a difficult time being vulnerable with their partners. They often deprioritize their own emotions and bottle up their feelings, which is likely to frustrate a partner who seeks emotional closeness. INTPs may also neglect to consider how their choices may emotionally hurt their partner. They are more likely to focus on what works logically, rather than what makes others happy. INTPs are likely to feel uncomfortable in very emotional situations, which may cause them to feel too stressed or frustrated to calmly work through the problem, if too much pressure is placed on them. However, INTPs can learn to be more open with and aware of their own feelings through patient practice.