Type 6 and Type 9 Relationship

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What is Enneagram Type 6
(The Loyalist)?
People with an Enneagram type Six personality tend to be engaging, hard-working, and responsible in their behavior. They want to feel safe and tend to be concerned with outside threats. They are very loyal and want to build close relationships with others.


What is Enneagram Type 9
(The Peacekeeper)?
People with an Enneagram type Nine personality tend to be accepting, optimistic, and adaptive in their behavior. They like peace and tend to avoid conflict. They tend to enjoy time alone or with smaller groups of people.


Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Communication

How can Sixes and Nines communicate effectively with each other?

Enneagram Sixes are driven by the need to feel safe and secure in their everyday lives, while Nines are motivated by a desire for internal peace.

Sixes should be positive and clear when communicating with Nines.

Nines should be direct and open when addressing Sixes.

Resolving Conflict

Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Conflict

How can Sixes and Nines resolve conflict?

Nines tend to have a difficult time discussing personal issues. Sixes should avoid being passive-aggressive in arguments, while Nines should avoid being overly passive or withdrawn.

Sixes should be patient with Nines and gentle when sharing their perspective. Nines should recognize the importance of working through problems by communicating their thoughts and feelings honestly with Sixes.

Building Trust

Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Trust

How can Sixes and Nines build trust?

Sixes are likely to trust Nines who are authentic and loyal. Because Sixes tend to be a bit skeptical of new people, Nines should spend time getting to know Sixes.

Nines tend to trust Sixes who are patient, warm, and understanding. Sixes should try to connect emotionally with Nines.

Working Together

Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Working Together

How can Sixes and Nines work together?

Sixes tend to be loyal, responsible, and practical, while Nines are generally optimistic, supportive, and accepting.

Sixes bring hard-work and commitment to a workplace. Sixes can help Nines feel more comfortable sharing their opinions or ideas.

Nines bring peace and patience to a work environment; they can help Sixes feel safe and calm.

Dealing with Change

Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Change

How can Sixes and Nines deal with change?

Because they prefer consistency and predictability, Sixes and Nines are likely to be disrupted by a new situation. However, they are likely to adjust after taking time to assess and process the change.

Managing Stress

Sixes and Nines need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.

Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Stress

Sixes are easily stressed by...

  • Unreliable people and relationships
  • Negativity in their work or personal environment
  • Feeling as though they aren’t needed
  • Failing or making the wrong decision
Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Stress

Nines are easily stressed by...

  • Disappointing those they love
  • Needing to make difficult decisions
  • Being interrupted or ignored
  • Pent-up and unexpressed emotion

Sixes should avoid being overly negative around Nines, while Nines should honor their commitments with Sixes.

Encouraging and Motivating

Sixes and Nines can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.

Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Encouragement

Sixes are motivated by...

  • Consistent and trustworthy relationships
  • Time spent with people they love
  • Offering help and assistance to others
  • Advocating for personal beliefs and values
Enneagram Type 6 & Type 9 Encouragement

Nines are motivated by...

  • Stability and consistency in their personal life
  • Helping to bring two groups together
  • Resolving others’ personal tensions
  • Feeling safe, accepted, and heard

Sixes can motivate Nines by sharing appreciation for their peaceful nature.

Nines can encourage Sixes by being consistently supportive and encouraging.

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