Enneagram Threes are motivated by the desire to be accepted by others, while Fours are driven by the need for their own unique identity.
Threes should avoid being overly logical when communicating with Fours by focusing, instead, on forming personal connections.
Fours should try to be direct and even-tempered when addressing Threes.
Threes should be attentive and sensitive with Fours by sharing their own perspective gently and remaining empathetic to Fours. Fours should avoid overly emotional expressions by focusing on addressing the facts of a situation and calmly explaining how they’ve been affected. Threes and Fours should work together to find a working compromise.
Threes tend to trust Fours who can both express themselves logically, when needed, and help Threes work through their own difficult emotions. Fours can help Threes address internalized negative self-perception and feel more deeply confident in their own abilities.
Fours generally trust Threes who allow Fours to express themselves openly. Threes should recognize and affirm Fours’ individuality.
Threes are usually social and hard-working, while Fours tend to be more artistic and expressive. Threes bring efficiency and resourcefulness to a workplace. Fours offer insight and creative thinking. Threes can help Fours avoid being personally offended by negative situations, while Fours can help Threes understand and express their emotions.
Many Threes will adjust well to change, as they tend to be optimistic and adaptable. Fours aren’t generally concerned with routine, meaning they don’t tend to be very affected by change.
Threes and Fours need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.
Threes should allow Fours to spend plenty of time alone, while Fours should avoid being overly critical of Threes.
Threes and Fours can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.
Threes can motivate Fours by recognizing and appreciating their unique personality traits.
Fours can encourage Threes by supporting their efforts to achieve idealistic goals.