Type 3 and Type 8 Relationship

Learn about Enneagram types and relationships

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What is Enneagram Type 3
(The Performer)?
People with an Enneagram type Three personality tend to be ambitious, adaptable, and enthusiastic in their behavior. They are driven and love to set and accomplish goals. They tend to adjust their roles, actions, and expressions to every setting or people-group in order to best fit each environment.

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What is Enneagram Type 8
(The Protector)?
People with an Enneagram type Eight personality tend to be self-confident, powerful, and assertive in their behavior. They love engaging in debates and are skilled at making difficult decisions. They are fiercely independent and hate being reliant on others.

Communication

How can Threes and Eights communicate effectively with each other?

Threes and Eights are both confident, passionate, and hard-working. Threes tend to be more success driven, desiring value and acceptance from others, while Eights tend to be independent, motivated by the need for personal autonomy.

Threes should be clear and logical when engaging with Eights.

Eights should be open-minded and direct when addressing Threes.


Resolving Conflict

How can Threes and Eights resolve conflict?

Threes and Eights should work through problems logically. Threes should be forward and honest with Eights by addressing their perspective calmly. Eights should listen openly to Threes, offering their own point of view in a composed, levelheaded way. The two personalities should work together to find a mutually beneficial solution.


Building Trust

How can Threes and Eights build trust?

Threes tend to trust Eights who are supportive of Threes’ goals and ambitions. Eights should help Threes feel safe and valued.

Eights usually trust Threes who are competent, hard-working, and consistent. Threes should be genuine and direct with Eights.

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Working Together

How can Threes and Eights work together?

Threes are usually driven and charismatic, while Eights tend to be more outspoken and self-sufficient. Threes tend to bring efficiency and practical thinking to a workplace. Eights offer quick, logical decision making. Threes can help Eights recognize when to step down in a situation, while Eights can help support and advocate for Threes.


Dealing with Change

How can Threes and Eights deal with change?

Many Threes and Eights tend to enjoy the challenge of a new situation and will generally adapt quickly and easily. However, Eights may have difficulty if the change limits or restricts their personal freedoms.


Managing Stress

Threes and Eights need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.

Threes are easily stressed by...

  • Stress from feeling as though they need to constantly entertain
  • Repetitive failure or difficulty solving a problem
  • Being perceived negatively
  • Working to reconcile their own emotions

Eights are easily stressed by...

  • Being controlled by or subordinate to others
  • Facing vulnerable or emotional situations
  • Others’ dishonesty or misdirected blame
  • Feeling out of control or helpless

Threes should avoid restricting Eights, while Eights should avoid being negative around Threes.


Encouraging and Motivating

Threes and Eights can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.

Threes are motivated by...

  • Accomplishing what they set out to do
  • Feeling loved and accepted by others
  • Having new goals to achieve
  • Public-speaking or meeting new people

Eights are motivated by...

  • Taking charge and leading others
  • Feeling free, understood, and respected
  • Making decisions that help other people
  • Logical and practical ideas and solutions

Threes can motivate Eights by giving them freedom to make their own choices.

Eights can encourage Threes by encouraging and supporting them.


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