Because these two personalities are very different, it can be difficult to find a common way of communicating and processing. It’s important for each person to understand how the other prefers to communicate and at least meet them in the middle.
INTP personalities should learn to be more open with their own feelings. ESFJs will appreciate it if an INTP offers intentional time and works on being a little more organized.
ESFJ types should allow INTP types to have plenty of space; ESFJs need to avoid overly emotional expressions and be a bit more patient with INTPs’ disorganization.
Conflict can be difficult for ESFJ types to face, so INTP types should try to be more sensitive; ESFJs should also work to focus carefully on the facts of the situation and avoid overly emotional expressions.
It’s important to allow ESFJs to take some time to gather their thoughts in these discussions, so INTPs should be patient, which may require more energy for them.
Overall, it’s important that the two types work together to effectively communicate with one another; it’s even more important to be empathetic toward the other person in times of stress.
The two types can build trust by being sensitive to the needs of the other, despite the fact that they are different from their own. When they empathize with and respect one another, they can begin to establish trust.
INTP types are more likely to be trusting of ESFJs who allow room for creativity and flexibility, while communicating logically with INTPs.
ESFJ types may find it easier to trust INTPs who work at being encouraging and opening up emotionally, even if only a little. In general, as long as there is a mutual effort to meet the others’ needs, the two types have the potential for strong trust.
INTP and ESFJ types can actually work really well together because of their differences; processing and expressing themselves differently means they are more likely to come up with different ideas and solutions to problems.
ESFJs can help INTPs to stay on track and finish projects as they near the end, while INTPs can help ESFJs think through decisions.
Once they learn to work together and appreciate their distinctions, their partnership is likely to be well-rounded and highly functional.
Due to their Perceiving trait, INTPs tend to be adaptable and accepting of change. ESFJs may struggle a bit more with change, especially if it is unexpected. During this time, INTPs should help ESFJs process and understand the new situation; encouraging them to create a new plan or routine after the change can be helpful, as it may provide ESFJs with a necessary sense of control.
INTP and ESFJ types need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.
The two types should work together, each compromising at times to help the other feel more at peace. Though it may be difficult, stress can be avoided by mutual understanding and conscious work.
INTPs should accompany feedback to ESFJs with praise for what they’ve done well; this will help ESFJs to feel appreciated and challenged, rather than attacked.
ESFJs can help INTPs by addressing conflict in one on one environments, allowing them to have space from others.
INTP and ESFJ types can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.
INTPs can motivate ESFJs by communicating positively and staying relatively organized in their workspace.
ESFJs can motivate INTPs by appreciating their thorough thinking and allowing them space to work separately.