INFJ and ISTP Relationship

Learn about Myers-Briggs types and relationships

Overview
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What is an INFJ Personality Type?

People with an INFJ personality type tend to be determined, reserved, and altruistic in their behavior. They are idealists and are passionate about making the world a better place. They enjoy close relationships with a few people, but usually prefer working alone.

What is an ISTP Personality Type?

People with an ISTP personality type tend to be curious, pragmatic, and confident in their behavior. They are unpredictable and spontaneous, but are often quiet, preferring to think and process information internally.

Communication

How can INFJ and ISTP types communicate effectively with each other?

INFJs and ISTPs are very different; though they are both Introverted and prefer to spend time alone, INFJs are emotional, creative, and organized, while ISTPs express themselves logically, focus on the present, prefer to go with the flow of things.

INFJs need to express themselves more rationally around ISTPs and avoid taking things too personally.

ISTPs should practice being more empathetic and gentle toward INFJs, allowing them to share their feelings when necessary.

Resolving Conflict

How can INFJ and ISTP types resolve conflict?

INFJs may have a difficult time addressing conflict. ISTPs should be understanding and patient, giving INFJs the space and support they need to feel safe to express themselves. INFJs should try to be direct and honest, allowing ISTPs to work through the problem one step at a time.

Building Trust

How can INFJ and ISTP types build trust?

INFJs are likely to trust ISTPs who show empathy and can follow through on commitments. Reliability and security is the key to building a relationship with INFJs.

ISTPs will grow to trust INFJs who learn to be more direct and understand ISTPs’ need to pursue last-minute opportunities.

Working Together

How can INFJ and ISTP types work together?

INFJs bring creative thinking, organization, conscientiousness to a work environment. They can help ISTPs learn to consider the feelings of others when making a decision.

ISTPs offer balanced, practical thinking and adaptability to a workplace. They can help INFJs learn to express themselves more openly and appreciate living in the moment.

Dealing with Change

How can INFJs and ISTPs deal with change?

Because they tend to follow set plans, INFJs may have a difficult time adapting to change. ISTPs are naturally gifted at processing new situations, however, and can help INFJs learn to embrace the benefits of a new situation. INFJs are likely to adjust well, once they have an opportunity to create a new plan.

Managing Stress

How can INFJs and ISTPs manage stress?

INFJs and ISTPs need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing stress when possible.

INFJs are easily stressed by…

  • Feeling unable to express themselves
  • Chaotic and unpredictable environments
  • Conflict with other people
  • Disappointment and personal failure

ISTPs are easily stressed by…

  • Pressure to commit to long-term projects
  • Monotonous or purposeless routine
  • Spending too much time around other people
  • Dealing with interpersonal conflict

INFJs should avoid pushing ISTPs into emotional situations; INFJs should communicate more logically or wait to address issues in private settings.

ISTPs should be willing to listen when INFJs need to express themselves; ISTPs need to be gentle to INFJs when they are stressed.

Encouraging and Motivating

How can INFJ and ISTP types encourage and motivate each other?

INFJs and ISTPs can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.

INFJs are motivated by…

  • Emotional connections with others
  • Spending time alone to relax
  • Planning for the future
  • Setting and achieving goals

ISTPs are motivated by…

  • Taking things apart and figuring out how they work
  • Flexible schedules that allow them to be impulsive
  • Exciting new adventures and experiences
  • Finding unique solutions to difficult problems

INFJs can help motivate ISTPs by allowing them the freedom to pursue last-minute opportunities.

ISTPs can encourage INFJs by honoring commitments and affirming INFJs’ contributions to the community.

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