ESTJ and ESTJ Relationship

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What is the ESTJ personality type (The Commander)?
People with an ESTJ personality type tend to be organized, loyal, and hard-working in their behavior. They are good, law-abiding citizens with a desire to lead. They are very principled and thrive when they are helping and encouraging others to follow a set of beliefs and values.


Myers-Briggs ESTJ & ESTJ Communication

How can ESTJ types communicate effectively with each other?

ESTJs are Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Judging personalities, meaning they tend to be outgoing, attentive, logical decision-makers, who prefer to follow set plans.

ESTJs should be honest and forthcoming with one another, remembering to set intentional meetings when discussing important or sensitive information.

Resolving Conflict

Myers-Briggs ESTJ & ESTJ Conflict

How can ESTJ types resolve conflict?

ESTJs should address conflict in a calm, rational way. ESTJs should engage in discussion, share their thoughts openly, and avoid interrupting one another. Together, they should work through issues individually and systematically by focusing on the important details.

Building Trust

Myers-Briggs ESTJ & ESTJ Trust

How can ESTJ types build trust?

ESTJs tend to trust other ESTJs who are principled and ethical; ESTJs admire strong leadership and loyalty from others. In order to establish a connection, ESTJs should get to know each other through open discussion.

Working Together

Myers-Briggs ESTJ & ESTJ Working Together

How can ESTJ types work together?

ESTJs bring attention to detail, rational decision-making, and organized planning to a workplace. ESTJs can help inspire and motivate one another to achieve important personal or professional goals.

Dealing with Change

Myers-Briggs ESTJ & ESTJ Change

How can ESTJ types deal with change?

ESTJs may have a difficult time adapting to new situations, as they enjoy consistency and stability. They should try to help each other by focusing on the benefits of the change and establishing a new, more flexible, schedule or routine.

Managing Stress

ESTJ types need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.

Myers-Briggs ESTJ & ESTJ Managing stress

ESTJ types are easily stressed by...

  • Disorganization and chaos around them
  • Inconsistent relationships with others
  • Emotional or vulnerable situations
  • Disappointments from other people

ESTJs should avoid placing themselves or other ESTJs in situations that lack structure or organization.

Encouraging and Motivating

ESTJ types can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.

Myers-Briggs ESTJ & ESTJ Motivation

ESTJ types are motivated by...

  • Ethical, inspiring action from others
  • Organization and structure in their personal life
  • Strong and admirable leadership
  • Establishing a routine or tradition

ESTJs can motivate one another by accomplishing important goals that contribute to the well-being of the community.

Myers-Briggs Test

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