ENFP and ENFJ Relationship

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What is an ENFP Personality Type
(The Encourager)?
People with an ENFP personality type tend to be energetic, adaptable, and inventive in their behavior. They like to think up new, creative ideas and love sharing them with other people. They thrive in group settings and enjoy meeting new people.


What is an ENFJ Personality Type
(The Advocate)?
People with an ENFJ personality type tend to be warm, genuine, and empathetic in their behavior. They are persuasive and are often using their gifts to help guide people toward a better life. They thrive in groups and love to build connections with others.


Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Communication

How can ENFP and ENFJ types communicate effectively with each other?

ENFP and ENFJ personalities are Extroverted, Intuitive, Feeling, meaning they tend to spend their free time with others, process emotionally, and focus their attention on the big picture. However, ENFPs are usually more flexible in their plans, while ENFJs prefer to follow set schedules. ENFPs should set a meeting time for sharing important information with ENFJs, while ENFJs should listen closely to ENFPs ideas’ with an open mind.

Resolving Conflict

Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Conflict

How can ENFP and ENFJ types resolve conflict?

Since ENFPs and ENFJs are both Feeling personalities, they should each focus on expressing how they feel in times of conflict, while remaining empathetic to the other person. Though both ENFPs and ENFJs dislike confrontation, conflict should be addressed in a timely manner. ENFPs should share their perspective directly and honestly; ENFJs should remain attentive to ENFPs while showing support and sharing encouragement.

Building Trust

Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Trust

How can ENFP and ENFJ types build trust?

ENFPs are more likely to trust ENFJs who allow them the freedom to follow a loose schedule, while ENFJs tend to trust ENFPs who are consistent and take the time to get to know them.

Working Together

Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Working Together

How can ENFP and ENFJ types work together?

ENFPs and ENFJs both bring charisma, creative solutions, and empathy to a workplace; however, ENFPs also offer a flexible attitude, while ENFJs provide motivation and organization. ENFPs can help ENFJs pursue new opportunities, while ENFJs can help ENFPs commit to important goals.

Dealing with Change

Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Change

How can ENFP and ENFJ types deal with change?

Due to their Perceiving trait, ENFPs tend to be naturally accepting of new situations. ENFJs, however, may struggle a bit more with the change, since they tend to plan things in advance. ENFPs should help ENFJs focus on the positive aspects of change while encouraging them to create a new plan or routine.

Managing Stress

ENFP and ENFJ types need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.

Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Managing Stress

ENFP types are easily stressed by...

  • Spending too much time alone
  • Lack of independence or freedom
  • Facing interpersonal conflict
  • Idealistic expectations not being met
Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Managing Stress

ENFJ types are easily stressed by...

  • Judgement and criticism from others
  • Feeling like they are a burden to society
  • Focusing closely on specific details
  • Facing negativity from the community

ENFPs should try to follow through on plans with ENFJs, while ENFJs should avoid pushing ENFPs to commit to a rigid schedule or routine.

Encouraging and Motivating

ENFP and ENFJ types can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.

Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Motivations

ENFP types are motivated by...

  • Discussing new, creative ideas with others
  • Connecting emotionally with those around them
  • Participating in unique experiences
  • Dreaming about an exciting future
Myers-Briggs ENFP & ENFJ Motivations

ENFJ types are motivated by...

  • Forming connections with other people
  • Making a difference in the community
  • Feeling loved and valued by those around them
  • Attending to their own personal needs

ENFPs can motivate ENFJs by sharing encouragement and appreciation, while ENFJs can encourage ENFPs by participating in a shared new experience.

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