Enneagram Fours are motivated by their search for personal identity, while Nines are driven by a desire for peace.
Fours should be open and clear when addressing Nines.
Nines should focus on building personal connections and avoiding casual conversation around Fours.
Nines may have difficulty addressing personal issues, as they tend to avoid confrontation. Fours should help begin the conversation by sharing their perspective calmly, avoiding overly emotional expressions, and listening attentively to Nines. Nines should be more openly expressive and honest; they need to work to understand the root cause of an issue. Fours and Nines should be patient with and sensitive to one another as they work to find a balanced settlement.
Fours generally trust Nines who are supportive, accepting, and engaging. Nines can help Fours feel comfortable and valued as they are. Nines are likely to trust Fours who are relatively even-tempered and calm. Fours should try to create an environment in which Nines feel safe expressing their honest feelings without fear of conflict.
Fours tend to be expressive and imaginative, while Nines are usually harmonious and calm.
Fours bring creative thinking and emotional awareness to a work environment; they can help Nines understand their own feelings.
Nines offer mediation skills and patience to a workplace. Nines can help Fours feel more confident in their own ideas.
Fours don’t tend to be very personally affected by change, as they are usually more concerned with their internal state.
Nines tend to be externally adaptable, but may experience discomfort with change, especially if it disrupts their peace with others or harms their private space. Those who are negatively affected are likely to adjust well after understanding and working through their own emotions.
Fours and Nines need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.
Fours should avoid being critical of Nines, while Nines should affirm and support Fours.
Fours and Nines can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.
Fours can encourage Nines by allowing them to share more openly and affirming their ideas.
Nines can motivate Fours by creating a safe, accepting environment in which they can express themselves.