Enneagram Fours are motivated by a desire for uniqueness and personal identity, while Eights are driven by their need to remain in control of their own lives.
Fours should be direct and clear in their communication with Eights.
Eights should avoid overly casual conversation with Fours by discussing topics on a deeper level.
Fours and Eights should avoid being overly emotional or passionate when discussing tense issues. Both sides should communicate their perspective calmly while remaining open to the others’ point of view. They should work together to find a working compromise for the situation.
Fours generally trust Eights who can be encouraging, supportive and, at times, vulnerable. Eights should work toward sharing their true emotions around Fours.
Eights are likely to trust Fours who can both stand up for their beliefs and recognize when to accept another viewpoint. Fours should communicate openly and honestly with Eights.
Fours tend to be creative and emotionally intuitive, while Eights are courageous and assertive.
Fours bring creative solutions to a work environment; they can help Eights work through their emotions in a difficult situation.
Eights offer fair, thoughtful decision making to a workplace. Eights can help Fours feel comfortable advocating for their ideas in large groups.
Fours don’t tend to be very personally affected by change, as they are usually more concerned with their internal state.
Eights may process change well, given that it doesn’t negatively affect their personal freedoms.
Fours and Eights need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.
Fours should avoid being overly emotional around Eights, while Eights should give Fours plenty of space to reflect privately.
Fours and Eights can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.
Fours can inspire Eights by engaging in a debate or discussion.
Eights can motivate Fours by encouraging them to pursue artistic endeavors.