People with an Enneagram type Four personality tend to be creative, sensitive, and expressive in their behavior. They like to be unique and seek to find their own identity. Though they desire relationships, they may seem distant and reserved, especially in group settings.
What is Enneagram Type 6
(The Loyalist)?
People with an Enneagram type Six personality tend to be engaging, hard-working, and responsible in their behavior. They want to feel safe and tend to be concerned with outside threats. They are very loyal and want to build close relationships with others.
Communication
How can Fours and Sixes communicate effectively with each other?
Enneagram Fours are driven by their need for uniqueness and individuality, while Sixes are motivated by a desire to be safe. Fours should be supportive and encouraging around Sixes, allowing them to feel secure. Sixes should try to connect emotionally with Fours, avoiding casual conversation.
Resolving Conflict
How can Fours and Sixes resolve conflict?
Fours should communicate their feelings calmly with Sixes while remaining open-minded and empathetic.
Sixes should be sensitive to Fours’ feelings by sharing in a gentle, even-tempered way. Fours and Sixes should each acknowledge their role in the situation.
Building Trust
How can Fours and Sixes build trust?
Fours generally trust Sixes who communicate openly and connect on a deeper, emotional level. Sixes should be supportive and affirming of Fours’ creative abilities.
Sixes are likely to trust Fours who are reassuring and reliable. Fours should honor their commitments and avoid being inconsistent or unpredictable around Sixes.
Fours tend to be creative and self-aware, while Sixes are usually responsible and practical.
Fours bring imaginative ideas and insight into a work environment; they can help Sixes find new ways to solve problems.
Sixes offer hard work and loyalty to a workplace. Sixes can help Fours set more realistic expectations.
Dealing with Change
How can Fours and Sixes deal with change?
Fours don’t tend to be very personally affected by change, as they are usually more concerned with their internal state. Sixes, however, may be disrupted by change, as they seek security and consistency in their lives. They are likely to adjust after developing a better understanding of the situation and taking time to reframe their mindset.
Managing Stress
Fours and Sixes need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.
Fours are easily stressed by...
Casual or meaningless conversation
Parties and large groups of unfamiliar people
Lack of personal creativity
Being interrupted or facing an argument
Sixes are easily stressed by...
Unreliable people and relationships
Negativity in their work or personal environment
Feeling as though they aren’t needed
Failing or making the wrong decision
Fours should avoid being overly negative around Sixes, while Sixes should avoid pushing Fours to be more practical.
Encouraging and Motivating
Fours and Sixes can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.
Fours are motivated by...
Building connections and relationships with others
Taking personal time to reconnect with themselves
Expressing their emotions through a form of art
Feeling valued and accepted for who they are
Sixes are motivated by...
Consistent and trustworthy relationships
Time spent with people they love
Offering help and assistance to others
Advocating for personal beliefs and values
Fours can encourage Sixes by spending quality time with them.
Sixes can motivate Fours by giving them space to reflect.
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