Ones and Fours are both idealistic personalities, focused on how the world could be better. Ones tend to be disciplined and objective, driven by their desire for morality. Fours are usually creative and individualistic, craving their own established, unique identity.
Ones should try to connect with Fours through meaningful, positive conversation.
Fours should avoid being too emotional around Ones by focusing on clearly expressing their thoughts.
Ones tend to process issues logically, while Fours prefer to work through the emotional impact of a situation. Ones should be sensitive and gentle by allowing Fours to share how they’re feeling and allowing them to take space when overwhelmed. Fours should avoid taking issues personally by focusing on compromising and discussing a situation calmly.
Ones are likely to trust Fours who enjoy reflecting on shared interests, like ethics and art, while Fours tend to trust Ones who can connect on a deeper, more emotional level.
Enneagram Ones tend to be practical and systematic, while Fours are generally intense and expressive. Ones can help Fours work toward their idealistic goals, while Fours can help Ones recognize and appreciate their own emotions.
Ones may have a difficult time adjusting to new situations that are out of their control. They are likely to be upset by unhelpful change and will likely advocate for a different solution. Fours tend to rely less on routine, meaning they don’t tend to act differently in new situations.
Ones and Fours need to seek to understand what brings stress to the other type and should try to avoid causing it when possible.
Ones should give Fours plenty of space to process, while Fours should avoid being overly emotional around Ones.
Ones and Fours can encourage and motivate each other in their personal and professional lives.
Ones can help motivate Fours by recognizing their unique identity.
Fours can encourage Ones by participating in intellectual discussion.